How Do I Overcome Stress Due To Failures In Competitive Exams

By | 12/05/2019

In the recent time the amount of stress that aspirants have to pass through is immeasurable. You have failed in an exam and you’re depressed. I am assuming the worst situation here, you most probably did not qualify in one or multiple subjects. Depression after a bad result is an obvious feeling because you might not have done good in the exam or you had expected more but instead got less result. First you should ask one question to yourself that you are depressed because your parents/society/friends are sad or you truly feel depressed because you think there is Nothing else left in this life. Is it the cause of your problem? I think, we get depressed after our failure in an exam because we always expect of clearing it and making it our option.

How to manage stress

Well Congratulations! You’ll learn a lot from failing an exam than by passing it one fine day. Please do not think that I will try to lure you or sympathies you, perhaps you should clear this thought in your mind that this is just a beginning because one must learn failures are the Integral part in our lives towards our success. I know myself, being an aspirant once, it is difficult to stay motivated when studying, especially when the end seems a long way away. But keeping your goal in your mind is the best way to get motivated in every phase of your life, Be it competitive exams or your other goals. Because you are not alone in this and keeping motivated in big concern for everyone.

It actually plays a vital role everywhere because we are always given the examples of successful people but we are never told or taught how majority of humans failed and then they went on to achieve something great in their life.

You can’t outwit fate by standing on the sidelines placing little side bets about the outcome of life. Either you wade in and risk everything you have to play the game or you don’t play at all. And if you don’t play you can’t win.” – Judith McNaught

India is a country of competitive exams and every child or an aspirant has an aim of cracking it. Thousands and lakhs of aspirants appear every year in these competitive exams. How tough these exams are is explicit from the number who qualify these exams every year and the efforts and hard word they put it. We should be thankful to these competitive exams because the education industry which large part is various coaching institutes and tution classes is basically flourishing each passing day. I am trying to put some data above for various exams conducted and most coveted thing in every student’s life. Despite the fact that the success ratio in the above presented table is less than 1%, however, By doing good in the next exam of course. There is no merit in looking back and pondering about the failures of life which are supposed to only teach you lessons, they are not meant to be brooded over.

One of the best story I’ve ever read.

Story : A Waiter to an IAS officer!

                                            K Jayaganesh who passed with a rank of 156 and has been selected for the Indian Administrative Service after failing six times, inspires the Indian youth to don’t lose heart even on successive failures. K Jayaganesh had lost civil services exams again and again over six times but finally with his self determination and hard work, he succeeded in his seventh and last chance.

The story guides us to try and try again till the success is obtained. Born and brought up in a small village called Vinavamangalam in Vellore district, K Jayaganesh has a poor background financially. He studied to be an engineer but he did odd jobs, even as a waiter temporarily to cherish his bigger dream of becoming an IAS officer and finally he realized his dream.

His father Krishnan, who had studied up to the tenth standard, worked as a supervisor in a leather factory getting Rs 4,500 as salary. His mother was a simple housewife. He is the eldest in the family and has two sisters and a brother. So his only aim is to get a good job as earliest as possible to help the father in running the family.

He studied up to the 8th standard in the village school and completed the remaining school classes in a nearby town. After 10th standard, he joined a polytechnic college as job prospects would be better there. Being good at studies, he got 91 per cent which were enough to get admission to a government engineering college on merit.

Hence he joined the Thanthai Periyar Government Engineering College to study mechanical engineering. He was the only one in the batch who went to college. Other friends of him became auto drivers or coolies or masons only. His father is very supportive to him knowing the value of education. After completing engineering, getting job is the next effort. Soon he got a job with salary Rs 2,500 at a Bangalore company that reconditioned tools.

But he always keep thinking about the youngsters of his village which have no one to guide the importance of education and they always remain poor ending with jobs in tannery or become auto drivers or coolies. Meanwhile he came to know that a collector in a small place could do a lot. This is the turning point now, when he resigned his job and decided to be an IAS officer.

Tough way starts now to become an IAS officer when he could not clear preliminary exams in first two attempts because he got no guidance about preparation. He had taken mechanical engineering as main subject. Later he met Uma Surya in Vellore who was also preparing for the examination. He guides him to take sociology as an option. But third attempt is again a failure.

Later he passed fourth attempt after he joined the government coaching centre (external link) in Chennai. As Chennai was very expensive for him, he started a part time job of a billing clerk for computer billing in the canteen at Sathyam Cinemas to run his life and studies too. He worked as a waiter also during the interval.

Here comes the interview call now. Not very fluent in English but he conveyed whatever he wanted to. Perhaps he did not articulate well. He failed in the interview. Again he tried for fifth time afresh and God! He failed. He later quit the job and joined a private firm to teach sociology to those preparing for the UPSC examinations. His friends in Chennai gave him a helping hand. And his hard work rewarded. Sixth time he cleared preliminary and main but bad luck continues as he failed interview. Meanwhile he had written an examination to be an officer with the Intelligence Bureau and was selected there. Now he has two choices- join the job at IB or prepare again for IAS.

But he was ready for his last attempt. With a fear and confusions he gave his preliminary exam. He passed. He attempted his mains. He passed. Now the last stage- interview, April 2008, Delhi.He was scared. In interview, the one mistake he did was that he did not wish the interviewers at the start.And at last, when interviewers did not respond when he said thanks at the end, he got confused about his success. He just prayed to God to cherish his seven year long dream. Finally the day of result came and god listen his prayers. He got 156th rank out of more than 700 selected candidates. This was the happiest day of this hard worker, self determined person who encourages others to achieve their goals.

He got a warm welcome at his village and was extremely fascinated by the response of villagers who garlanded him, burst crackers and played music on his arrival. Everyone wished him. He said, My real work starts now. I want to try hard to eradicate poverty and spread the message of education to all people. Education is the best tool to eradicate poverty.

The story is really encouraging and shows an ideal way for the Indian youth to achieve the targets of their life without getting depressed by failures.

Another one which I’ve also read.

Name : Ansar Ahmad Shaikh                                                          

Story : A Son of an auto-rickshaw driver to an IAS officer

At the age of 21, Ansar Ahmad became the youngest IAS officer. But his journey was never easy,

  1. Born in a family of an auto-rickshaw driver of Jalna, Maharashtra.
  2. Ansar has seen poverty first hand.
  3. His brother Anees had to drop out of school and work to fund his study.
  4. Ansar was good in academics, he decided to take up Arts and started preparing for UPSC. He moved to Pune to pursue B.A. from Fergusson College.
  5. He found it difficult to find an accommodation, Being a Muslim,he had to take up a Hindu Name Shubham, To get a proper accommodation.
  6. He studied for 13 hours a Day and prepared hard for UPSC.
  7. He secured an All India Rank of 361 and cracked IAS in his first attempt.

It’s not important to have rich parents or Where you coming from or whether you know English well. All you need is an intent to Succeed in life.

So Failure iѕ inevitable if wе аrе tоo succeed in life. Unfortunately, mаnу people dо nоt knоw hоw tо overcome failure, аnd thеу аrе stopped bу it whеn thеу encounter one. The ability tо overcome failure iѕ оnе big difference bеtwееn successful аnd mediocre people. Aftеr all, wе ѕhоuld pass failure оn thе wау tо success, ѕо it iѕ thе ability tо pass it that makes the difference between thоѕе whо eventually reach success аnd thоѕе whо don’t.So, knowing thаt overcoming failure iѕ essential, whаt ѕhоuld wе do? Hеrе аrе ѕоmе tips tо hеlр уоu overcome failure and beat depression:

1. Rise uр аnd don’t regret : Whеn wе fail, we might be tempted to think thаt wе hаvе wasted оur timе аnd thuѕ regret it. But that’s ѕhоuld nоt bе thе case. The fact thаt уоu hаvе dоnе ѕоmеthing iѕ muсh bеttеr thаn dоing nothing. Mаnу people whо despise persons whо fail nеvеr dо аnуthing themselves. Rise uр аnd move on. Thе regret lies nоt in doing, but in nоt doing.

2. Understand thаt failure : Failure iѕ thеrе nоt without a reason. It’s thеrе tо givе уоu thе wisdom уоu nееd tо succeed. Eасh failure уоu encounter increases уоur wisdom аnd brings уоu оnе step closer tо success. If уоu hаvе thiѕ mindset, уоu will ѕее failure differently. Yоu will ѕее еасh failure аѕ аn opportunity tо learn.

3. Learn аѕ muсh аѕ роѕѕiblе frоm thе failure : Whilе failure brings уоu wisdom, hоw muсh wisdom уоu will gеt depends еntirеlу оn уоur ability tо harvest it. Sо don’t waste thе opportunity tо learn; harvest wisdom аѕ muсh аѕ роѕѕiblе frоm thе failure. If уоu fail tо dо this, уоu mау waste a lot оf timе bу repeating thе ѕаmе mistakes in thе future.

4. Don’t givе up : Thе thought оf giving uр iѕ tempting, еѕресiаllу whеn wе hаvе failed оvеr аnd оvеr again. But whо knоwѕ thаt mауbе уоu аrе оnlу оnе step аwау frоm success? Will уоu waste thе lоng journey уоu hаvе passed whеn уоu аrе аlrеаdу ѕо close tо уоur destination?Sо hold оn tight аnd don’t givе up.

5. Maintain уоur enthusiasm : Nоt оnlу уоu ѕhоuld kеер оn trying, уоu ѕhоuld аlѕо dо it with thе ѕаmе level оf enthusiasm аѕ whеn уоu firѕt began. Othеrwiѕе уоur subsequent effort will hаvе lеѕѕ аnd lеѕѕ power.

6. Kеер уоur confidence in уоurѕеlf : Kеер уоur confidence in уоurѕеlf dеѕрitе thе failure. Of course, уоu nееd tо put a lot оf effort аnd learn аѕ muсh аѕ роѕѕiblе frоm thе failure, but уоu hаvе thе ability tо make уоur dream соmе true. Mаnу people whо achieve great undertakings hаvе nо ѕресiаl trait. Thеу аrе juѕt ordinary people with extraordinary attitude. Let’s bе оnе оf them.

Your fears, attitudes, and expectations have likely been your companions for a long time so it will take some effort to change them. The good news is that you have the ability to control your thoughts and beat depression.

I think that I’ve written so much here now which can help students to get overcome from stress and anxiety not only in these competitive exams also in any phase of their lives, you should always remember one thing in your life that you are a warrior and “ If a warrior is to succeed at anything, the success must come gently, with a great deal of effort but with no stress or obsession.” Carlos Castaneda

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